So when it comes to relationship I’m of the opinion that there are only two games in town: Love and Trust.
Love is the glue that holds the connection of the relationship in a state of truth/bliss/joy and trust is the foundation. The joy lasts only as long as the foundation is in place.
So what is trust and what is love? I did write an article on the latter here, but let’s do a quick summary:
Love (in this context) is the art of becomming one with. It is the ultimate expression of open-ness, no boundaries, restrictions or withholds. When we extend the space of love towards another being, we effectively remove the self created veils of resistance between us. Sometimes it feels like the veils are created by the other, but IME, we can use JFI! on whatever shows up and dissolve the resistance that seems to be coming from someone else.
When I say “I love you”, what I mean by that is “I am open to you, you are ok, I have no negative judgement or resistance to you, you may live your life however you please without my interference”
Now what I have found is that love is indeed unconditional. I love you does not change when you are doing shit that bothers me. HOWEVER, whilst my love for you is not conditional, my presence is! If you slap me around, I will still love you, but from a distance!
Now how about trust?
IME, most people are under the illusion or misunderstanding that trust is earned. To those people I ask you: “How much time did all the drivers of the cars on the road spend earning your trust”. Obviously that’s rhetorical. They are all strangers, yet you trust them with your life every time you take your car out the driveway.
“But what is my guarantee he/she won’t break my trust?”
Well, what is the guarantee the person driving the car won’t swerve over the center line and hit you head on. What’s the guarantee the person in that truck is sober, or even awake?
Trust is created, in the moment. Most people trust blindly, because the alternative is too scary. If we consciously considered the possible outcomes of getting in a car, many would choose not to, so they just don’t consider it. The same peeps have no issue with allowing their minds to dwell upon “Where is my husband/wife right now, he should have been home an hour ago” and allow all sorts of fantasy to color the mood.
Trust is basically saying: “I don’t need to know!”
Now if you are thinking this sounds like a good excuse for deception, secrets, lies and affairs, then I say you are stuck in No Trust, and in that space I’ll bet you are also stuck in No Love too!
This isn’t about ‘Open’ Relationships 
It’s about the sacred space of freedom and privacy that each soul requires to do what it needs to do. Personally, I favor monogamy but don’t let that side issue take you off the scent.
The magic is in trust and love, the choice between monogamy and polygamy are mere details to get hung up on. Neither need influence the other. Trust and love are independent of number of partners or style of partnership.
The expression of trust is an absolute and unconditional respect for the privacy of all beings. If you have a problem allowing others their privacy, you have a trust issue and therefore most likely a love issue in your life.
The opposite of trust is control and restriction. The opposite of love is closing down, putting up boundaries as illusory protection. This leads to either a passionless, ‘room mate’ style relationship, or a lot of fighting and other such insanity!
It’s always a choice, even when you feel you are the victim.
If you feel you are being led around by the ego’s need to know, in order to judge somebody or something, perhaps to protect yourself, you are going to be manifesting a whole heap of shit into your life. Fine if you need the training, but it isn’t fun is it!
You’re basically pushing your fear out into the world and allowing it to shape your reality for you. Of course, the less you trust, the more you fear and the stronger your energetic impact. If you’ve done any energy work and/or you are a decent manifester, you’re going to attract or create an awful lot of evidence to confirm the validity of not trusting.
Good to know we always have a choice to stand inside of “I trust you, I don’t need to know. I respect your privacy. I love you. You are free to live your life the way you want to without my interference or judgment”.
That’s when the magic begins!
